When people think of sex, penetrative sex usually comes to mind first. But we want to say that non-penetrative sex can be just as exciting and satisfying.
Many couples find that focusing on external intercourse, sensual play, or teasing can be even more satisfying and can even create a deeper level of intimacy.
Whether you want to explore new forms of sex or have non-penetrative sex for personal health reasons. Here are ways to make non-penetrative sex more exciting.
What is non-penetrative sex?
Non-penetrative sex, also known as external sex, is sex that does not involve vaginal or anal penetration, but includes other sexual activities outside of vaginal or anal penetration, such as oral sex, mutual masturbation, sensual massage, and sex toy play.
Benefits of trying non-penetrative sex:
l Enhanced foreplay: Slowing down can increase anticipation and make the experience more exciting, allowing for more varied foreplay.
l More orgasms: Easier to orgasm, especially for women, who are more likely to orgasm from clitoral stimulation rather than penetration.
l Deeper intimacy: Effectively relieve performance anxiety, more conducive to exploring more intimate contact and forms, increasing connection and affection.
l Suitable for all relationships: Regardless of your gender or sexual orientation, external intercourse is suitable for everyone.
Ways to make non-penetrative sex hotter
1. Sensual massage
Increase the heat through a full-body massage focusing on erogenous zones, using massage oil, warm hands and gentle touches to tease or arouse your partner. Take your time, don't rush, and let the tension accumulate naturally. You can use scented, heated or cool massage oils to increase not only stimulation, but also smoothness and comfort.
2. Mutual masturbation
Watching each other masturbate is a very exciting and stimulating thing, which helps to increase intimacy with each other and is also a good way to understand each other's sexual desire. You can try to touch yourself or guide your partner's hand to slowly tease each other.
With the help of some props, things can be more interesting. For example, you can try the rose toy, which can be used to stimulate the clitoris, promote sexual arousal, and achieve a more pleasant and stimulating orgasm experience. Or try remote-controlled sex toys to increase your partner's sense of interaction.
3. Oral sex
Oral sex is a powerful way to give your partner an incredible orgasm without penetration. Giving your partner oral sex, combined with fingers or sex toys, helps focus on the pleasure.
You can use temperature play, bondage or blindfolding to increase the sensation and enhance your feelings.
4.Friction
Rubbing each other can also bring amazing stimulation and pleasure, whether it is dressed or undressed, which is just as passionate as penetration. Friction can cause intense stimulation to the genitals, and many people can orgasm by rubbing dry.
Try different positions, sitting astride your partner or putting a pillow underneath, which can get a better angle and a more comfortable experience.
5. Sex toys
Sex toys can enhance non-penetrative intimacy and emotional connection with partners by adding new sensations and stimulation. For example, sucking toys such as rose toys, bullet vibrators and nipple stimulators can take pleasure to new levels.
If you want to choose a sex toy that is right for you, first understand the type of stimulation you like.
6. Kissing and Sensual Tease
Long, deep makeout sessions can be very exciting. Try kissing, nibbling, and whispering dirty talk while keeping your hands moving over sensitive areas. For example, teasing touches on the inner thighs, lower back, or neck can send shivers down your partner's spine.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. Can you orgasm from non-penetrative intercourse?
Of course! Many people, especially those with vulvas, find clitoral stimulation more satisfying than penetration. Tribbing, oral sex, and toy play can all lead to intense orgasms.
2. Is non-penetrative intercourse good for couples?
Yes! It can build emotional intimacy, communication, and excitement in a relationship. Plus, it removes the pressure of penetration, allowing you to explore pleasure in new ways.
3. What if my partner prefers penetration?
Communication is key! Let them know why you want to explore external intercourse, and find ways to incorporate their desires into the experience. You can also combine penetration with teasing or edging techniques to prolong pleasure.
4. Can toys replace penetration?
Toys like rose toys or vibrators can provide powerful orgasms without penetration. They add variety and allow couples to explore pleasure together in new ways.
Final Thoughts
Non-penetrative sex is far from boring—it can be just as intense, satisfying, and exciting as traditional intercourse. Whether you focus on oral sex, toys, sensual contact, or teasing, taking the time to explore new ways to have sex can lead to more intense orgasms and deeper intimacy.
