When it comes to sex toys, size, texture, and firmness can significantly impact your experience. If you're interested in moving on to larger toys, this guide is here to offer you some valuable tips. While the focus will be on dildos, these suggestions can apply to other insertable toys like butt plugs and prostate stimulators.
Step 1: Assess Your Current Limits
To choose a toy that suits you best, it's essential to understand your current limits. If you have a favorite dildo that you wish were larger, check its size specifications for girth and length in the product listing. For those who have only used fingers for penetration, use a flexible tape measure to determine the circumference of the fingers you're comfortable inserting.
Step 2: Selecting Your Next Sex Toy
When sizing up, it's wise to take it slow. Consider adding about a quarter to a third of an inch, at most, to the maximum diameter you currently find comfortable.
Firmness is another critical factor when choosing a larger toy. Think about the material of your current toy and whether you enjoyed its feel. Switching from a dual-density silicone dildo (soft on the outside) to a firm glass dildo or a firmer silicone one may feel like a more significant leap. Choosing another larger dual-density dildo could be a more gradual transition.
Additionally, some dildos feature a lot of texture, which can affect your experience when sizing up. while can provide extra stimulation, it might not be suitable for someone looking to size up from a smoother, fairly realistic toy —unless they're certain they want more pressure.
Step 3: Trying Out Your New Toy
Imagine your new toy has arrived in the mail—exciting! After thoroughly cleaning it, follow these steps to make the most of your new addition:
Apply Plenty of Lube: Lube is your best friend when exploring beyond your comfort zone. Even if you typically don't use lube for vaginal play, now is the time to start. A high-quality water-based or oil-based lube, facilitates easier insertion and reduces friction during thrusting. For anal play, there are thicker lube options available.
Relax: Warming up is crucial when transitioning to a larger toy. Take your time; use a smaller toy, watch erotic content, or engage with a partner—whatever arouses you. Proceed slowly, gradually introducing the toy while keeping your mind on sensual thoughts.
Stop if You Feel Pain: This is the most critical tip for a comfortable experience when sizing up. You may initially feel a sense of fullness and slight discomfort upon inserting the toy fully. However, if you experience pain, do not push through it. While it can be frustrating not to enjoy a new toy immediately, no one wants to risk injury. By following these guidelines, you can ensure that buying larger toys remains a fun and exciting adventure.
Finding the Perfect Fit
In my personal journey of sexual exploration, I've relished the experience of pushing my boundaries. This has included experimenting with toys that were too hard, too soft, overly textured, and yes, even too large to use comfortably, no matter how gradually I went. Each of us has distinct limits due to our unique anatomies, and that's perfectly fine. Sizing up can be enjoyable, but it's essential to remember that size isn't a competition. It's entirely acceptable to feel comfortable only with small to average-sized dildos. What truly matters is listening to your body, taking your time, and, most importantly, savoring every moment of pleasure.